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Originally Posted by MiniatureGeek
I know that most of the younger crowd hear ignores my advice on dating and relationships, in fact most people do, but the truth is K/H you may have had some doing in it as well. So instead of just calling the girl a cheater and being mad at her, you should take this time to look back on the relationship and not only look for the things you did right but the things you could have done better.
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I'm open to any and all advice i can get (except when i didn't ask for it), so i assure you, i will not completely ignore this. I'm pretty sure i had a little to do with it (a friend of mine told me a few days ago that he heard directly from her mouth that i didn't put out enough), but when it all boils down, the end result was fully her fault.
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Originally Posted by MiniatureGeek
I'm not saying it is all to blame on you, it was probably a joint problem, but when you say you get out of work at 5:15 and you don't have time to go see her well that to me says you're not interested in her. I think you were a bit too harsh on her, but I can't fault you there, I reacted badly to break ups in the past but then I grew from them.
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I didn't get
out of work at 5:15. I go
into work at 5:00. She gets out of school at 3:45, but isn't home until around 4:15 or so. It's not that i wasn't interested; Believe me: I loved the time we spent together. When i graduated in June, i kinda saw this coming, but didn't act on it then, because in the past i had wanted to break up with her, but we worked things out, and i feel that working that out made our relationship stronger than it was before.
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Originally Posted by MiniatureGeek
I don't know if you are old enough yet to objectivly look at your relationships and see your mistakes but I hope you are. Because every relationship, not matter if it is you breaking up with the girl, or her breaking up with you, determines how you will react to others later in life.
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I like to think I am old enough, but i don't like to seem over-confident in myself. Too many times have i said something, then gone on to make a fool of myself.
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Originally Posted by MiniatureGeek
I've been engaged now for a month, and I have a great girl, but I know that I have baggage from my past and issues that if I don't watch myself, my nature could cause us problems.
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Congratulations! Have you tried "losing" that baggage at the airport? (is now a good time to be facetious?)
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Originally Posted by MiniatureGeek
You'll probably ignore this and if so oh well, most people don't like to admit to their own mistakes, I know I don't but that is part of growing up.
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I already said i won't ignore this.
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Originally Posted by MiniatureGeek
And as a P.S.
You really need to stop asking to get your threads locked just because they don't go your way, it only reflects poorly on your self.
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I didn't ask to have it locked because it wasn't going my way. I'm used to things not going my way. Thats the story of my life. I asked to have it locked because it was turning into a threadmill, and was going to be locked soon enough. I figured it's gonna get it anyway, why not do it now?