And so i have gone and gotten married. It was unpremeditated, spur of the moment second degree matrimony.

My new wife is not actually new. It’s her second marriage too, she we are both seasoned. We have been hanging out for ten years or so and know each other well.

We have chosen not to live together, and this seems to confuse people a great deal. I don’t know why it should. We live about half an hour apart. My kids go to school here, my current job is here and she lives in a small town she likes, close to her job and in a house she likes.

Would it be more convenient to live together? I’m not sure. There would be more travel and less space and who doesn’t appreciate space? We may spend as much time together as we wish. We also may pursue our own interests and ideas in our own homes.

Generally men seem to be more shocked by this. They can’t understand why anyone would want to do this. Woman nod knowingly and say...